What If You're Super-Picky?

On the topic of being at the whims of a girls power, on new years I asked a girl who is a coworker of mine if she had her kiss yet. I knew I couldn't go for the makeout so I just kissed her on the head. Then a Guy jumped on it and made out with her in front of me. That was awkward.

A little later I was playing beer pong and she kept trying to get my attention. The ball dropped a couple times and she picked it up for me and said "see I'm trying to help you! Aren't I nice?!" My response was repeatedly throwing the balls at her. She was screaming and laughing. I pushed her and dragged her to the spot where the Guy was standing that she made out with and said "you need to stay here! I'm trying to play beer pong!" More laughing and shouting from her. That was basically the last of our interactions that night.

So from reading that would you say I'm in the clear? Or am I still a loser from the awkward makeout moment?

Hope to hear from you soon.

-Mark

Hey Mark,

you are anything but a loser dude! The part where you threw the balls at her and make her stay over by that other guy were hilarious.

As far as "in the clear" you should really ask yourself if you want to date someone you work with. Having a harmonious work environment is something worth holding onto.

But if you are going to go ahead with it, it is important to be discreet! Last thing you want is to be the talk around the watercooler...that can get awkward lol.

With the skills and mindsets taught here at TSM I suggest you go out and meet women who are all around you...then invite them to come play beer pong and...well you know what to do after that lol.

Just make sure that with the teasing you are also escalating physically and eventually giving off signals of interest...aka let her know you like her and want to see more of her. It can be as simple as - when she does something cool, stop and look her in the eye like you are sizing her up and say: "you know what, you are really cool. We should hang out sometime". Then turn back to whatever you are doing and allow her time to think on it :)

cheers,

Race

Great advice but I think that expressing interest sexually and romantically are one of my weak points especially when I'm not completely sure she likes me. I know i have to hit that waypoint eventually but do you any ways to do so that are a little more subtle?

If I had to guess you are waiting for far too many signs of interest on her part. You want to be ABSOLUTELY certain before you make even the slightest move. This stems from a fear of rejection. Time to take your ego off the line (we have some great techniques for this at TSM) and go after what you want.

She (and almost every girl for that matter) is waiting for you to lead the interaction forward. Believe it or not, they are just afraid of being rejected by YOU so they don't make the first move. Take it in gradual steps and see how she responds and act accordingly. Assume she already likes you because you are an awesome, likable person.

Know it is not going to work out with every girl, and that is ok. That says nothing about you. Feel free to message Nick, Christian or myself if you want to do some more personal one-on-one training with this. You rock dude!

cheers,

Race

hahaha hookah. Don't know why, but it makes me laugh.

Nice video... don't really see what it had to do with being super-picky. Did you mean super-busy? Either way, there was some good advice.

What I'm really interested in is what you're smoking out of there... is that a vap? It looks sick.

Nice video... don't really see what it had to do with being super-picky. Did you mean super-busy? Either way, there was some good advice.

What I'm really interested in is what you're smoking out of there... is that a vap? It looks sick.

I have another dilemma a bit similar.
I prefer to date girls who I truly enjoy the company of. (In my learning process, the ones I should improve most on "gaming" should be the personality types I am truly interested in, anyways.)
However, since I am in a learning process, I don't want to set out for something "final" because I know I will be able to attract even more "ideal" girls later on. It is hard to be thinking "wow, she is really the cutest one I have met, but I know I will end it again. Because I am not yet close at becoming the man I really want to be, and able to attract my truly ideal partner."
I don't want to "consume" or "use" girls on my path - my focus will be to always make it an enriching experience for them.

This probably sounds silly, but the dilemma is that the cuter the "current" girls are, the harder it is to break off and move on. Whereas, if I dated some that "meant less", this process would be "easier". But less exciting and less of a learning experience for me.

You can't sit down and wait for perfection - you gotta get out there, to grow with it. But, but, but...

Any advise on this?

By the way, I have your "Unbreakable" product already and it is for sure helpful - I'm starting to get closes and now the next level is how to manage the "successes" that are turning up.
So you can refer to sections in that material if you like.

I have another dilemma a bit similar.
I prefer to date girls who I truly enjoy the company of. (In my learning process, the ones I should improve most on "gaming" should be the personality types I am truly interested in, anyways.)
However, since I am in a learning process, I don't want to set out for something "final" because I know I will be able to attract even more "ideal" girls later on. It is hard to be thinking "wow, she is really the cutest one I have met, but I know I will end it again. Because I am not yet close at becoming the man I really want to be, and able to attract my truly ideal partner."
I don't want to "consume" or "use" girls on my path - my focus will be to always make it an enriching experience for them.

This probably sounds silly, but the dilemma is that the cuter the "current" girls are, the harder it is to break off and move on. Whereas, if I dated some that "meant less", this process would be "easier". But less exciting and less of a learning experience for me.

You can't sit down and wait for perfection - you gotta get out there, to grow with it. But, but, but...

Any advise on this?

By the way, I have your "Unbreakable" product already and it is for sure helpful - I'm starting to get closes and now the next level is how to manage the "successes" that are turning up.
So you can refer to sections in that material if you like.