The Story of Your Life

that was sweet...thanks for putting that up

This was great! You put in words exactly what I was having in my head for some months already, but couldn't define half as sharply and clearly. Thanks for sharing.

Great Videos Christian, really insightful and what I have always believed.

Hey Christian! Good day =D
Part 1 to 3 was just phenomenal, but i can't view part 4, when i click play, it goes to that "More or Again" buttons.

I know you're a busy man, but if you could tell me how to watch part 4, that'll be delightful :D

Cheers!

That was just absolutely amazing! best pick up advice i've read in a long time!

Even helped me to solve some problems I currently have! Didn't realize that small beliefs/small talk you to yourself, holds you back a long way!

Any chance of having this as like a permanent audio? Hate to see it come down on sunday!

Awesome stuff!

Hi Guys,

I really enjoyed Christian's talk. The stuff about street pick-up was good, but what I really got the most out of was the concept of storytelling. It's true that the stories we tell ourselves and others make ALL the difference.

Let me expand on this a little bit ...

How do we know WHAT story is going to work best?

Christian alluded to this when he mentioned the 3 different types of clothes that he's tested on the street.

He says that the "just come from the gym" look works best. Christian says this might be because it makes his approaches seem more natural and "out of the blue". My guess is that it works better because Christian himself FEELS better about this story compared with the other two options.

My guess is he feels more relaxed, more himself, more open telling THAT story to himself AND to the women. Because he feels better about the story, it's more congruent and therefore more effective with women he meets.

Now what about the stories YOU tell (to yourself and others).

Are you telling the story that, "Something's wrong with me, I need to get better at this" when you go out. Without saying anything out loud, I'm sure on some level, women are going to pick up on the story. For me, I've noticed one kind of story that never seems to work -- a story about fixing what's broken. It doesn't feel good and it's not all that effective either I find.

Well what about choosing a NEW story that's more in line with who you REALLY are, what feels amazing to you?

What if you told a story that feels GREAT to you. What about, "I'm someone who's out there, pushing the envelope, taking this to the limit, having fun socializing and meeting people." Or what about, "I'm out there enjoying meeting new people, making new friends and seeing who I want to make a deeper part of my story".

The point I think, is to find a story that's exciting for you, that allows you to focus NOT on what's broken and what needs fixing.... but on what you're good at, what's exciting and THRILLING for you. That's probably different for everyone. When you vibrate with THAT story, watch what happens my friend!"

All the best,

Matt

Man christian, you are such a great public speaker!! keep it up, it's a pleasure to listen to you

FUCK I WANT A BURRITO

Christian,

Just wanted to say that I really liked your focus on being an authentic person. Direct game is the best because it forces you to address your own issues (i.e., goal setting and achievment) prior to becoming a true PUA. Well done!

Thanks, Michael

Christian...I commend you!!

You are such an eloquent wise speaker, It truly was a pleasure to listen you and your ideas. You bring such a unique approach to the concept of just being yourself and enjoying your life, but giving yourself permission to have a bit of edge while you demonstrate your story to women.

I have to say Christian, that after researching all the other social coaches out there, I truly believe you are the only one who can show men everywhere how to attain the success with women and life that they seek out!

Keep up the excellent work Christian!

"Being good with women is largely a matter of giving yourself permission to be good with women... feeling like you deserve it"

This concept doesn't get talked about enough. One of the main differences I've noticed between the guys who hook up with the most hot chicks on my campus versus the guys who don't get laid is the top guys feel like they deserve to hook up and escalate with girls.

I noticed a huge jump in my own game when I started to realize that women enjoy my company, and I deserve the ones that I am attractive to. So I started to give myself permission to escalate, seduce, and spend time with them, and my success skyrocketed.

It's amazing how the stories we tell ourselves and other people truly shape our reality.

I guess that's why they say: the world is a reflection of who we are. :)

Nice presentation, Jonathan!

Hey these videos were Awesome, it helped clarify some negative thought i was experiencing lately! You Guys ARE SUPERB!!!!

Pretty good and insightful info for free.Thanks guys..........Joe

hey man this is so priceless! very helpful advice, especially about the outifit, the inner game stuff and many other things!!!!
really thank you i'm appreciating the way tour siteblog is different from others pick up sites...i mean they're great too but the passion you put in what you do is evident!! sry for bad english

hey man this is so priceless! very helpful advice, especially about the outifit, the inner game stuff and many other things!!!!
really thank you i'm appreciating the way tour siteblog is different from others pick up sites...i mean they're great too but the passion you put in what you do is evident!! sry for bad english

You mentioned some common limiting beliefs that guys have (too short, too old, bald, she's out of my league). The problem is that I have none of those. I see mine as more fundamental and I can't seem to get rid of it. My limiting belief is that I believe my social skills or sociability is below average. I'm partly into this stuff to improve my social skills. But then that proves that I do lack social skills! Every time I get rejected, that limiting belief pops up again. It tells me that's not who I am, I'm not meant for that stuff, I wasn't brought up this way, that I'll never get better because I'm an introvert...

You mentioned some common limiting beliefs that guys have (too short, too old, bald, she's out of my league). The problem is that I have none of those. I see mine as more fundamental and I can't seem to get rid of it. My limiting belief is that I believe my social skills or sociability is below average. I'm partly into this stuff to improve my social skills. But then that proves that I do lack social skills! Every time I get rejected, that limiting belief pops up again. It tells me that's not who I am, I'm not meant for that stuff, I wasn't brought up this way, that I'll never get better because I'm an introvert...

Thanks now i know what i have to do now to improve my inner life and change it from the core overhaul my thinking into a new direction again thanks god must have been talking threw you.

Brandon Nailing

Thanks now i know what i have to do now to improve my inner life and change it from the core overhaul my thinking into a new direction again thanks god must have been talking threw you.

Brandon Nailing

Yesterday I brought "my story of who I am" out with me last night on my first solo set. I'm a fun guy, I have lots of friends, everybody likes me and I can talk to anyone because I'm a nice guy. These are all things that are true and I said to my self before going. For the first time in my new city I brought these things out with me. I saw a 9 that I wanted to talk to when I was buying a beer and made some banter with her using implied investments and implied that I would see her around the dance floor later. I went about my business having fun, partying, and dancing. I looked over my shoulder and saw her moving just a little to the music holding two full beers. Without skipping a beat I just went over like the fun guy I know I am and twirled her out to the dance floor and said "you're allowed to move more than that." Turns out one of those beers was for me and by the end of the night she asked me "... do you want my phone number." and then literally ran across the bar to get her phone so she could have my number. Thank you Christian for reminding me that I'm allowed to be as fun as I know I am and I look forward to sharing future success.

- S-Way

Yesterday I brought "my story of who I am" out with me last night on my first solo set. I'm a fun guy, I have lots of friends, everybody likes me and I can talk to anyone because I'm a nice guy. These are all things that are true and I said to my self before going. For the first time in my new city I brought these things out with me. I saw a 9 that I wanted to talk to when I was buying a beer and made some banter with her using implied investments and implied that I would see her around the dance floor later. I went about my business having fun, partying, and dancing. I looked over my shoulder and saw her moving just a little to the music holding two full beers. Without skipping a beat I just went over like the fun guy I know I am and twirled her out to the dance floor and said "you're allowed to move more than that." Turns out one of those beers was for me and by the end of the night she asked me "... do you want my phone number." and then literally ran across the bar to get her phone so she could have my number. Thank you Christian for reminding me that I'm allowed to be as fun as I know I am and I look forward to sharing future success.

- S-Way

Great video. Thanks!

Thanks Brandon!  I'm not sure if God was talking through us but I'm psyched to hear that it helped.

Sure thing, thanks for leaving a comment Travis :)

Dude that's so awesome to hear.  I don't want to oversimplify stuff, but it's awesome when you've got a feeling inside of yourself that YOU are the man... love it.

So what do you do AFTER you go back to your pivotal experiences? to dissolve that junk? 

For a couple years now Ive been conscious of the first big experience which has repeated itself over and over with other girls since then - of girls being very interested to begin with but always losing them on follow up/setting up first meetup

I definitely have this lurking belief but its not too specific as to WHY, like I have no specific ideas WHY they are losing interest, they just are