Comments on: The "Gotcha" Mindset http://www.thesocialman.com/the-gotcha-mindset/ How To Be Confident Wed, 01 Feb 2012 06:40:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Christian Hudson http://www.thesocialman.com/the-gotcha-mindset/#comment-239 Christian Hudson Fri, 18 Feb 2011 03:37:03 +0000 http://www.thesocialman.com/?p=673#comment-239 awesome dude, glad you dug back far enough to find this one :) awesome dude, glad you dug back far enough to find this one :)

]]> By: Anon http://www.thesocialman.com/the-gotcha-mindset/#comment-238 Anon Fri, 18 Feb 2011 03:23:10 +0000 http://www.thesocialman.com/?p=673#comment-238 This for me summed up exactly what's wrong with the seduction community. The trouble is it attracts guys who, like me admittedly, have had little previous success with women. This means the community as a whole has some VERY unhealthy beliefs about the fairer sex.<br><br>I think i like your website.... i'm gonna keep reading. Much respect for not using "pick up" and seduction techniques to compensate for your insecurities<br> This for me summed up exactly what's wrong with the seduction community. The trouble is it attracts guys who, like me admittedly, have had little previous success with women. This means the community as a whole has some VERY unhealthy beliefs about the fairer sex.

I think i like your website.... i'm gonna keep reading. Much respect for not using "pick up" and seduction techniques to compensate for your insecurities

]]> By: Christian Hudson http://www.thesocialman.com/the-gotcha-mindset/#comment-1141 Christian Hudson Thu, 17 Feb 2011 22:37:00 +0000 http://www.thesocialman.com/?p=673#comment-1141 awesome dude, glad you dug back far enough to find this one :) awesome dude, glad you dug back far enough to find this one :)

]]> By: Anon http://www.thesocialman.com/the-gotcha-mindset/#comment-1140 Anon Thu, 17 Feb 2011 22:23:00 +0000 http://www.thesocialman.com/?p=673#comment-1140 This for me summed up exactly what's wrong with the seduction community. The trouble is it attracts guys who, like me admittedly, have had little previous success with women. This means the community as a whole has some VERY unhealthy beliefs about the fairer sex. I think i like your website.... i'm gonna keep reading. Much respect for not using "pick up" and seduction techniques to compensate for your insecurities This for me summed up exactly what's wrong with the seduction community. The trouble is it attracts guys who, like me admittedly, have had little previous success with women. This means the community as a whole has some VERY unhealthy beliefs about the fairer sex.

I think i like your website.... i'm gonna keep reading. Much respect for not using "pick up" and seduction techniques to compensate for your insecurities

]]> By: Doctor No http://www.thesocialman.com/the-gotcha-mindset/#comment-237 Doctor No Sat, 27 Dec 2008 09:47:08 +0000 http://www.thesocialman.com/?p=673#comment-237 To me, the important point is to have a mindset of being a GIVER, not TAKER. I create something with my interactions. Even when I tease, I also see it as a giving. I spike the interest and the mood of the other person. This means I am also speaking from a "value" viewpoint. Not trying to suck up to anybody just to "get" something from the interaction. To me, the important point is to have a mindset of being a GIVER, not TAKER. I create something with my interactions.
Even when I tease, I also see it as a giving. I spike the interest and the mood of the other person.

This means I am also speaking from a "value" viewpoint. Not trying to suck up to anybody just to "get" something from the interaction.

]]> By: sargenation.com http://www.thesocialman.com/the-gotcha-mindset/#comment-236 sargenation.com Fri, 19 Dec 2008 00:11:34 +0000 http://www.thesocialman.com/?p=673#comment-236 <strong>The “Gotcha” Mindset...</strong> Its a sure-fire way to be creepy and unattractive, but almost ALL men have done it. What is the "gotcha" mindset?... The “Gotcha” Mindset...

Its a sure-fire way to be creepy and unattractive, but almost ALL men have done it. What is the "gotcha" mindset?...

]]> By: The Seven Laws of Multiple Long Term Relationships : SPARKS | OF | ATTRACTION http://www.thesocialman.com/the-gotcha-mindset/#comment-235 The Seven Laws of Multiple Long Term Relationships : SPARKS | OF | ATTRACTION Thu, 18 Dec 2008 22:04:07 +0000 http://www.thesocialman.com/?p=673#comment-235 [...] inside and scratch your head wondering why it’s the case. Christian actually just wrote this amazing post on the topic which I strongly [...] [...] inside and scratch your head wondering why it’s the case. Christian actually just wrote this amazing post on the topic which I strongly [...]

]]> By: Greg M http://www.thesocialman.com/the-gotcha-mindset/#comment-234 Greg M Thu, 18 Dec 2008 16:48:34 +0000 http://www.thesocialman.com/?p=673#comment-234 I find I have another mindset after reading "The Game". Before, I used to approach seduction as a purely natural thing -- chemistry that happens between people. When I first read about all the methodical manipulation pickup artists can do, I started to view picking up girls using any kind of method to be manipulative. I just wasn't congruent with any of it. I wasn't being genuine, I was playing these girls. Moreover, I was always afraid to do the "mainstream" lines because I figured they had been done so much already. So I developed all my own stuff. So for me, the "gotcha" mindset is rather the other way. From all the indirect game, thinking that seduction is when you're putting one over on the girl, making her "give it up" through tricks and feigning disinterest. And yes, it can be that way, but I choose not to engage in that kind of seduction. I strive for something real to happen between the man and the woman. But there's a gray line when you're meeting a stranger, and as a man need to move things along, and I'm still often wondering about where it is. I find I have another mindset after reading "The Game".

Before, I used to approach seduction as a purely natural thing -- chemistry that happens between people.

When I first read about all the methodical manipulation pickup artists can do, I started to view picking up girls using any kind of method to be manipulative. I just wasn't congruent with any of it. I wasn't being genuine, I was playing these girls. Moreover, I was always afraid to do the "mainstream" lines because I figured they had been done so much already. So I developed all my own stuff.

So for me, the "gotcha" mindset is rather the other way. From all the indirect game, thinking that seduction is when you're putting one over on the girl, making her "give it up" through tricks and feigning disinterest. And yes, it can be that way, but I choose not to engage in that kind of seduction. I strive for something real to happen between the man and the woman. But there's a gray line when you're meeting a stranger, and as a man need to move things along, and I'm still often wondering about where it is.

]]> By: Anthony http://www.thesocialman.com/the-gotcha-mindset/#comment-233 Anthony Wed, 17 Dec 2008 23:50:12 +0000 http://www.thesocialman.com/?p=673#comment-233 Christian, I loved this post. To me this is one of your best, and I don't think anyone has brought this topic up yet. Christian, I loved this post. To me this is one of your best, and I don't think anyone has brought this topic up yet.

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