Sparks Rapid Escalation Method

Sparks Rapid Escalation Method...

The S-REM is a complete breakdown of all of the non-verbals that go into creating sexual tension between you and a woman who are attracted to each other so that your interactions will not fall flat but instead will be taken to the next level....

Awesome!
Breaks down what I was doing unconsciously and allows to enforce that. Thanks, man ;)

I really have to get over my fear of rejection cause looking at this I could never do that. I have tried it 3 times sine college and got slapped all three times and a drink in my face. Women said I was too close to them. tyhis guy is all up in her face SHit

talking about the birds and the beeeeaches

damn homie, wish i saw this before my last date...

The verbal content of the conversation is horrible. I mean... is that what a social man talks about?

Great. Very thorough and detailed. Thanks for the effort. I won't be unsubscribing you ( like I have 4 other dating companies )...
This is super useful

wahahah love how nick's constantly teasing her

glad everyone's liking this!!!!

Dom, sharpen up. This is being used to demonstrate the nonverbal communication of two people who are getting close to each other. The verbal contents, while not irrelevant, is LESS relevant than when you're building rapport, for example. As for your expectation of what a social man talks about - well, that's just kind of silly man. What'd you expect? This is flirting. If you're not happy with that, tonight I talked with girls about the semantic web, about keynsian economics, about the trouble asset relief program, and about how much trouble various and random girls were. But ya know, if you have some better ideas, lemme know.

Haha. Christian nice retort. Christian/Nick, do you think I really could've have had a Wal-Mart cashier kissing me soon after I entered her checkout line and before I left the store. I entered after someone else and had no one else behind me. We shared the eye contact and immediate attraction with little to no words aside from me saying "Debit". This girl was hot. She had a model's height and a pretty face...niiiice. So whatcha think? Possible?

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great video! Thanks for putting it out, guys. Definitely learned a lot from this. As was mentioned above, we do a lot of this naturally without the objective understanding of our actions. With that understanding however, we can hone our skills faster.

I'll add something I've found ... when a woman is feeling that pull and is ready-ish to be kissed, she locks her eyes on me. It's not part of the guy's method but just an indicator of where she's at.

@wayland - I'd say you need more proximity to make it intense enough but if you've got that lock-on eye contact with her and are feeling the heat, it may be the right time.

@dom - besides the fact that this is a demo ... whatever Nick is using in real life is working for him. If you don't see it working for you then use something else. I like that the conversation was mostly empty banter as it emphasizes that this whole process is about what's happening physically, not verbally.

Really good stuff. Thanks for taking the time to record this and put it out there.

I've been doing steps #1-3 for awhile, but never knew WHY I was doing it.

Watching Nick made me Jizz... In... My... Pants....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4pXfHLUlZf4

Nick's Beergarden just isn't the same without you!

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Awesome stuff. I could not get past "attraction" and had NO CLUE how to escalate. This is a PERFECT model. Thank you!

Holy Shit!

THIS IS FRIGGIN GOLD!

PERFECT DEMONSTRATION MAN!

wow nick you're getting me kind of turned on

Yeah, that is great demo... Just a thought I had to ask this - I noticed when Nick does the disconnect part, it's quite short - a second or two. As far as I get it, the purpose is letting her chase you. And in this particular example she does so. Just as he says "We gonna be friends", she immediately says - no, and takes his hand. But what if she does not make any kind of chasing. Some girls will not make a move, even if attracted, or it'll be more subtle and maybe not right at the moment of disconnect. Sometimes just the fact that she is there is the only thing that she will do to show interest. So my question is - if when disconnecting she doesn't chase immediately, do you continue the disconnect, or do you return to her, and how?

Just tried a bit of this stuff tonight. Well, there are few things to say. First, I kinda tried the short version, but without getting the signal from her. In fact, I went to 4 girls and when introducing myself to each of them, I increased physical proximity just like Nick did in step 5. It was fun, think I never did this before, and felt good. None of them backed away from me. Then I started talking to one of them, asking - what was your name again, where you're from, etc. The physical proximity was there, I did the body-rocking too. But I couldn't do the deep gaze, and lowering my voice thing. The reason for the first was I was not really attracted to her, and the reason for the second was it was loud enough, so if I was to speak with a lower voice, I was just not gonna be heard. And this wasn't the loudest club I've been. Then I did the disconnect, she didn't chase, and that was it. So the biggest problem I think with this system is that you hardly ever gonna be able to use this low sexy voice in a moderately loud club.
Other problem I found was this. I am below average height - about 5,7 and for example of this 4 girls 2 were slightly taller than me and 2 were about the same height. And it's a bit difficult to project very masculine when looking up at the girl I'm talking to.

This video is really great! It shows much uncouncious stuff that is great to have a little attention to.
The thing that is weird though is to walk SO close to a woman.

I was like that close talking to a woman once, but that happend naturally, so should we just do it when we feel there's attraction?

And,
thanks for this video guys :) Keep up the good work!

Thanks for all of the comments guys.

To answer a couple questions that have popped up:

Most of the time, you should only do this once she's attracted to you.

If it's too loud and she can't hear you- get closer to each other

The disconnect is a joke. You're not really upset because of whatever dumb thing you're disconnecting for. You're laughing/smiling as you do it. Then if she doesn't pull you back (which she will most of the time if you do it right) then just turn back around with a smile.

Nick, this is incredibly inspirational. I'm amazed at the obvious elusiveness of this. It's something we should know instinctively how to do but we've been conditioned by our culture in such a way that we don't even respond naturally to natural situations. Very strange. But I'm glad you figured it out.

Again, props for presenting this in such an accessible way.

My question is this: this video, and others on this site, are extremely helpful and bear repeated viewing, as Nick is often doing some very subtle things. Is there any way you guys could include an iPhone downloadable version on the site? It's pretty easy to create and would be wonderful to study when I'm not at my computer.

Nick i'm lovin the little "360 behind the girls head camera mojo" you got going at about 3:30 hahaha. That awesome display of video editing prowess was not lost on me, well done.

besides that, this is a pretty good video

Fucking money mate....something I'm finding a bit of a sticking point is that I can't escalate too hot.

I can so see myself doing this. Props.

That was very well done. It's evident you practice what you preach; something not always seen on these types of websites.

Great job!

Hey I really like the subtle nlp at 18:00 when Nick pulls her back after mirroring her body language.

You refer to it as a general compliment, or a 'pull' (as in push/pull), but its the double meaning of you talking about your Jersey indecisiveness turning into wanting to just be in Jersey, in the exact moment you were pulling her towards you - while also making the self points.

I laughed pretty hard.

Ace material guys.

If you're new to the seduction game, then this is quite an advanced approach. You will become very frustrated if you attempt this when you don't first understand and become competant with the basics. Staple knowledge comes in being familiar with and being able to show good body language, and project your confidence and status.
But for those who are good with women already, this is an excellent breakdown. Highlights the subtle parts that most people miss. Awesome stuff

How do you build congruence?

Very good Kino demonstration Nick, thanks :)

The video on Sparks R.E.M. clearly demonstrates the unique but result orientated use of body language to flame the passion in the woman seduvtively

The video on Sparks R.E.M. clearly demonstrates the unique but result orientated use of body language to flame the passion in the woman seduvtively

Great segment. It's like returning to an earlier time in my life when you didn't think you just acted upon your emotions without any concern about rejection. Thanks for sharing Nick.

Great segment. It's like returning to an earlier time in my life when you didn't think you just acted upon your emotions without any concern about rejection. Thanks for sharing Nick.

DUDE!!! This is the last piece of the puzzle i've been missing...!!!!!!!!!!
I've had trouble with attraction and tying it to opening... but i think this is it..!!! THANK YOU!!!

DUDE!!! This is the last piece of the puzzle i've been missing...!!!!!!!!!!
I've had trouble with attraction and tying it to opening... but i think this is it..!!! THANK YOU!!!

Thanks I needed that

Thanks I needed that

I needed to see this video. Thanks for the tips.

I needed to see this video. Thanks for the tips.

fuck you

how many reallys can you squeeze into this conversation . . i cant imagine that being attractive