What Your First Few Texts Tell Her
If you don't already know, there are you are not the only guy going after the girl(s) you are interested in. You must be able to separate yourself from the norm and display that you are the top pick. A lot of guys can get a girl's number but then get so excited they completely forget how to interact when they are texting or calling her. Each step you progress you have to confirm in her mind she made the right choice to move forward with you and not the next guy in line.
Though you are only sending 1-3 lines of text, you are giving off (often unconsciously) signals that tell her a lot about what type of guy you are.
For example:
- Is meeting women a typical behavior for you?
- Do you have high Social Value?
- Are you easily manipulated or do you have a strong sense of personal identity?
- What kind of personality do you have? Will you be able to excite her and make her laugh!?
- Are you needy or do you have things going on in your life?
These are just a few of things she will subconsciously pick up on. When added up, it will determine in her mind if she is becoming more attracted to you and wants to move forward with the relationship or if you are not the type of guy worth investing her time in.
This seems like a lot pressure to put on a few lines of text but don't worry you are about to learn the principles behind creating incredibly successful first text messages that give off all the right signals. But first we need to look at why what most guys do just doesn't work.
First Text No No's
The Ingredients of an Effective First Text
Engaging Her Emotions - Recalling Rapport Topics
Compelling Her to Respond
Setting a Fun Playful Tone
All Together Now - An Effective First Text
Using Social Networking Sites Properly
The Power of Your Profile
Answering the "Who is this?" Text
If it hasn't yet, eventually you will send a text to a girl only to get back these three little words: "who is this?" There can be many reasons this happens. Maybe she lost her phone or it broke and she had to get anew one. Maybe she didn't save your # or it has been so long since you last text her she deleted it. Whatever reason it happened, how you respond is going to determine if she is going to incorporate you back into her texting life or leave your # as unsaved. You don't want to get the "Who is this?" response every time you text her do you?
So how do you respond? Most guys typical response is to try to remind her of how she knows him, Hey this is so and so we met at such and such a place. Now maybe she will remember you and maybe she won't. Either way, trying to convince someone of how they know you always puts you in the position of chasing them. You remember them but you have to remind them of why they know you. Ouch.
The solution is to make her ACTUALLY want to know who you are. Don't just explain who you are and how she knows you right away. By replying in a fun way that doesn't try to explain who you are, you spike her curiosity and make her chase you. By the time she figures out who you are she has already associated fun, positive emotions with you ensuring she will be saving your phone # and be more than willing to engage in future text interactions. Here are a few example of fun ways to respond:
Oh my dear {nickname}...I thought my # was inscribed upon your heart???
Your Prince Charming...duh!
You didn't save my #?!!! I'm so hurt...sniff sniff..lol
{your name}. the ridiculously unattractive guy who was boring...haha :)
Your future ex husband of course :-)
In Action:
Amber ms hott?3/6/08 1:02 AM
Amber: Thts sweet but who is this ; )Me3/6/08 1:03 AM
Race: Prince Charming...duh!Amber ms hott?3/6/08 1:04 AM
Amber: Thn why r u not with meMe3/6/08 1:31 AM
Race: because ur evil step mother had me locked up in the castle! but I broke free and now we can live happily ever after...how excited are you! :)Be There and Be Gone - Ending the Exchange
Reminder - Do NOT Over Text or Call Her
In the "Texting Fundamentals" Chapter, we'll tell you how much you should be texting, the number one mistake guys make when texting, and
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