Comments on: Getting Her to Ask For Your Number http://www.thesocialman.com/getting-her-to-ask-for-your-number/ How To Be Confident Tue, 07 Feb 2012 17:11:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Best Weekend Reading from Around the Web http://www.thesocialman.com/getting-her-to-ask-for-your-number/#comment-584 Best Weekend Reading from Around the Web Tue, 10 Nov 2009 09:24:12 +0000 http://www.thesocialman.com/?p=1375#comment-584 [...] Hudson posted a really good article on how to get a girl to ask for your number over on his [...] [...] Hudson posted a really good article on how to get a girl to ask for your number over on his [...]

]]> By: andrew weeks http://www.thesocialman.com/getting-her-to-ask-for-your-number/#comment-583 andrew weeks Tue, 10 Nov 2009 09:03:22 +0000 http://www.thesocialman.com/?p=1375#comment-583 i get talking to a few woman but when it comes to ask them on a date i freeze can you give me anything to get over that as ki think it my reason why i am not getting anywere i get talking to a few woman but when it comes to ask them on a date i freeze can you give me anything to get over that as ki think it my reason why i am not getting anywere

]]> By: Mr. Mojo http://www.thesocialman.com/getting-her-to-ask-for-your-number/#comment-582 Mr. Mojo Mon, 09 Nov 2009 12:11:42 +0000 http://www.thesocialman.com/?p=1375#comment-582 Very nice article. Especially one of your conclusions in the end. I have also always gotten myself into trouble, when I talk too much. When I think back to my pre-community days, all I used to do was get the girls talking for hours. Eventually we'd end up kissing and going home. Nowadays, I have cut down on the time it takes to do that. But sometimes one forgets that it doesn't require too much fancy techniques to get ladies talking and opening up. Very nice article. Especially one of your conclusions in the end.
I have also always gotten myself into trouble, when I talk too much.

When I think back to my pre-community days, all I used to do was get the girls talking for hours. Eventually we'd end up kissing and going home.
Nowadays, I have cut down on the time it takes to do that.
But sometimes one forgets that it doesn't require too much fancy techniques to get ladies talking and opening up.

]]> By: kaosman http://www.thesocialman.com/getting-her-to-ask-for-your-number/#comment-581 kaosman Mon, 09 Nov 2009 04:09:41 +0000 http://www.thesocialman.com/?p=1375#comment-581 you ask way to many questions in your qualification. It sounded like an interview. you ask way to many questions in your qualification. It sounded like an interview.

]]> By: marky http://www.thesocialman.com/getting-her-to-ask-for-your-number/#comment-580 marky Mon, 09 Nov 2009 01:55:23 +0000 http://www.thesocialman.com/?p=1375#comment-580 yup... ones you change your toolset over you can actually start to pick wich girls you want ot spend time with.. the tides are changing.. we gettn da power back!!! especially her in oz where the girls have been running the show for way too long! yup... ones you change your toolset over you can actually start to pick wich girls you want ot spend time with.. the tides are changing..

we gettn da power back!!! especially her in oz where the girls have been running the show for way too long!

]]> By: Christian http://www.thesocialman.com/getting-her-to-ask-for-your-number/#comment-579 Christian Sun, 08 Nov 2009 19:18:07 +0000 http://www.thesocialman.com/?p=1375#comment-579 Hey Mary... good thoughts... and what you say is true... but a lot of guys either don't know how to do this because they're too in their own heads trying to think of what to say, or because they've read a whole lot of other "pickup" advice and talk too much without listening enough. And the real "shift" that happens in a guy's social skills is when he learns to speak in this way, and then he realizes that he now has the tools to be genuinely empathetic and interested. At that point, he can pretend-to-be or really-be - and a smart girl will typically recognize the difference. Hey Mary... good thoughts... and what you say is true... but a lot of guys either don't know how to do this because they're too in their own heads trying to think of what to say, or because they've read a whole lot of other "pickup" advice and talk too much without listening enough.

And the real "shift" that happens in a guy's social skills is when he learns to speak in this way, and then he realizes that he now has the tools to be genuinely empathetic and interested. At that point, he can pretend-to-be or really-be - and a smart girl will typically recognize the difference.

]]> By: Mary http://www.thesocialman.com/getting-her-to-ask-for-your-number/#comment-578 Mary Sun, 08 Nov 2009 18:33:31 +0000 http://www.thesocialman.com/?p=1375#comment-578 These 'techniques' are just sympathetic, non-egotistical interaction. Why do you all have to read up on these things to get it? However interesting the blog is, because it identifies psychological aspects of conversation we don't think about (kudos Christian), it doesn't take alotta emotional intelligence to understand that people appreciate when you are modest (and, in flirting situations, also mysterious) about your own life and interested in theirs. That girls are enamored by these instances of genuine (or seemingly-genuine) interactions shows how infrequently they come by them. I don't know. Maybe there's more of an art to this than I realize. Sometimes, though, it seems like the training for seduction is really just showing guys how to be or pretend-be (I think eventually, there ceases to be a difference) empathetic conversationalists (aka to listen). These 'techniques' are just sympathetic, non-egotistical interaction. Why do you all have to read up on these things to get it? However interesting the blog is, because it identifies psychological aspects of conversation we don't think about (kudos Christian), it doesn't take alotta emotional intelligence to understand that people appreciate when you are modest (and, in flirting situations, also mysterious) about your own life and interested in theirs.

That girls are enamored by these instances of genuine (or seemingly-genuine) interactions shows how infrequently they come by them.

I don't know. Maybe there's more of an art to this than I realize. Sometimes, though, it seems like the training for seduction is really just showing guys how to be or pretend-be (I think eventually, there ceases to be a difference) empathetic conversationalists (aka to listen).

]]> By: Christian http://www.thesocialman.com/getting-her-to-ask-for-your-number/#comment-577 Christian Sun, 08 Nov 2009 15:42:04 +0000 http://www.thesocialman.com/?p=1375#comment-577 Robin - absolutely... as could be said with most things in life :) Marky - wouldn't it be great if everyone understood this? Helge - thanks man! When we're ready to expand to Europe we'll connect! Ryan - yes, there is a right way to ask questions. I'll blog about that in the future. You notice that these questions are all related to the same topic, and take on a different tone than just someone who is seeking rapport...? Robin - absolutely... as could be said with most things in life :)

Marky - wouldn't it be great if everyone understood this?

Helge - thanks man! When we're ready to expand to Europe we'll connect!

Ryan - yes, there is a right way to ask questions. I'll blog about that in the future. You notice that these questions are all related to the same topic, and take on a different tone than just someone who is seeking rapport...?

]]> By: robin monteiro http://www.thesocialman.com/getting-her-to-ask-for-your-number/#comment-576 robin monteiro Sun, 08 Nov 2009 14:49:41 +0000 http://www.thesocialman.com/?p=1375#comment-576 i very much like this stuff,this is the practical knowledge which one requires while interacting with a girl,this is happening, but you should be carefull you should be in a proper state of mind while carry out this experiment i very much like this stuff,this is the practical knowledge which one requires while interacting with a girl,this is happening,
but you should be carefull you should be in a proper state of mind while carry out this experiment

]]> By: marky http://www.thesocialman.com/getting-her-to-ask-for-your-number/#comment-575 marky Sun, 08 Nov 2009 02:50:44 +0000 http://www.thesocialman.com/?p=1375#comment-575 totally... make the girl talk for ages about herself and she actually becomes interesting! they always want your nuber after you make them cool. totally... make the girl talk for ages about herself and she actually becomes interesting! they always want your nuber after you make them cool.

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