Fundamentals Videos - The Five Traits
July 15, 2008
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This is an interesting. It makes me think about whether I want to be attractive.
I don’t like to go out, and have fun being social. I don’t want people to just have fun. I want to force people to think more deeply about the world. Is there a way to do this?
You approach everything from the opposite perspective, which distorts your ideas.
Hey G, thanks for your feedback.
I think you’re being serious and not sarcastic here. If that’s your worldview, its not surprising that you’re not generating attraction in women.
I like thinking deeply about the world; we had a nice conversation with our clients this weekend about objectivism. But if your goal is to challenge people and “force” people to think about deep stuff, well…
who are you to challenge me? That’s the question a girl is going to ask herself. “Who is this guy who is trying to force me to think about stuff and challenge me? What has he done to merit my time?”
You need to make people FEEL GOOD to be around you before you challenge them to anything. And some women are down for a real exchange of ideas - we love and cherish those girls. I’m sure I’ll end up with one some day because I need intellectual stimulation.
But when you’re first meeting someone, you have to meet them where they are (in their headspace, their emotional state) before you take them somewhere else. If you want to challenge people’s ideas, be an entrepreneur or a politician. When you’re meeting new women, GIVE LOVE AND VALUE in the form of fun, a smile, and good feelings before you try to challenge her.
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Christian
Thanks for the reply
I understand what you are saying. I suppose in classic rhetorical terms, you must first construct an ethos become your sway emotions or give logical arguments.
Personally, I decided at around 12, I envisioned that I would one day have great power to persuade others, but I feared harnessing this ability until I had a good understanding of the truth of the world. Hence, I consciously adopted worldview, which basically precluded me from being too social.
That was many years ago. Now, I’m trying to move towards the second stage of my long-term goals. I understand I need to learn how to interact with people. I have been struggling with it.
Thinking over what you wrote, I think you make a good point that it is best to start interactions by making people feel good. I believe I have made mistakes in this regard. Although, I suppose later in a relationship, other types of behavior are possible.
Thanks