Nick's Rapid Escalation

[Matty P]

What's up guys.

Recently watched an awesome video about NickySparks' rapid escalation method. It's here:

http://www.thesocialman.com/sparks-r...alation-method

I had a few questions about this. I have, a few times, achieved this level of attraction. I never had his exact format but every time it's been kind of a divine coincidence that our conversation and body language have followed this general pattern to the kiss.

One major question I have is, where the hell do you GO after you achieve that little kiss? How do you keep the attraction cooking all the way to bed? Especially with the quick attraction he demonstrates in the end. I feel like if you moved her to bed with you too quickly there would be some major Last-Min Resistance. Do you drop the energy into a "get-to-know-you" manner, or what, so that she gets comfort with you? My gut tells me that's the wrong move, but I honestly wouldn't know how to get a girl to bed sans the all blue-ballin' LMR.

Another question I have is-- what if this girl starts qualifying you during your escalation? Sometimes I'm in convo with a high status and rather clever little girlie and she'll start busting me/qualifying me. Take away? Bust her back? Sometimes not too good at that, esp when drunk. WHERE DO YOU GET THAT QUICK WIT? Yeesh.

Thanks guys.

[Nick]

What's up Matty,

Thanks for the compliment and to answer your questions:

After the kiss I never... and I mean never turn down the intensity... I mean ok, I'm not going to stay in her face when we're married but it's the passion that you should always have for a woman you're attracted to.

So to keep the interaction hot and to stay away from LMR I'll immediately start blaming her for it: "OMG what are you doing? I knew you were trouble. What are you trying to do here? I'm a sweet innocent boy who doesn't do stuff like that, etc."

While I'm blaming her I'm keeping the devilish smile and heavy eye contact and push it to a joking forced connection with the passion high. Something like: "Seriously, I don't even know you. We should talk about where we're from and stuff like that right? So umm... where are you from?"

But you keep the non-verbals passionate until you move. "Let's get some fresh air, let's get out of here, let's grab some food, let's grab some sex"

She can't LMR because you're constantly LMR'ing her with your verbals. If she tries any, "whoa, this is moving fast, blah blah blah", I just counter with a, "Jesus I know, I'm just trying to make a new friend and you're seducing me... it's really not fair. If you come back to cuddle can you promise not to try anything funny? (kiss) Do you promise? I mean I can easily control myself but can I trust you?"

Finally, if I ever get so drunk that I'm not witty (it happens) I eject immediately from talking to women and either just turn the night into a "trouble with friends" night or go home

[Matty P]

Really helpful Nick, thanks for your time. Also incredibly funny, especially the "let's grab some sex." Gunna start trying to use this kind of pattern, update you guys with a field report as soon as the opportunity arises.

[Chris11220]

hey just curious, do you think its necessary to do step 7- notice something on the neckline.. what does it represent, if a girls comfortable with you kissing her? and if she backs away is that a clear sign that she's not ready to be kissed yet? hmm im guessing yes, ehh lol there was no reason to ask that one....and if this step is really necessary do you know any other examples of demonstrating the process of noticing something on the neckline

[Nick]

Good question Chris,


This gives me a good opportunity to clear up something that I should have already made clearer.

The S-REM is not a linear model- as in, it is not, "first do step 1, then step 2, then step 3, etc."

All of the steps are different ways in which sexual tension and attractive emotions are built between two people.

Maybe my hips won't be turned towards a girl, but my eye contact will linger a bit longer. I may do 100 disconnects before I ever do anything else mentioned before that. Sometimes I kiss a woman before I even do half of the steps.

So is it necessary to do step 7? Fuck no, but the point stands that when two people comfortably kiss their faces get a bit closer to one another before it happens. Step 7 is just an easy way to do that. You can tell her you have to tell her a secret or just reward her for something she's said or done by leaning in and giving her a kiss on the cheek.

If she backs away it is probably a clear sign that she's not ready to be kissed at the very second. Maybe she really does wan to kiss you but you just took her by surprise. Your response can decide whether or not she wants to kiss you in that next second. Do you get dejected or pull away shamefully? She won't even want to hold your hand. Do you look at her like she's crazy and are are unapologetic about your actions... possibly because you have testicles? Then she may want to jump you that very next second.

DO NOT take this and feel as though you have to memorize the steps and follow them in order.

DO watch the video and learn 9 different ways which you can build sexual tension between yourself and a woman. Play around with different combinations of them until you find something that you're comfortable with that consistently turns women on.

[Quantum of Solace]

That technique is really great because the verbal behavior is almost irrelevant. It prevents won from dragging on with conversation fillers and little did I know I have applied the principles in the technique without conscious realization of what I was doing, so this makes the technique all the more plausible as a evolved natural behavior mechanism that humans experience is the realm of seduction and attraction.

[Riggs101]

Love the rapid escalation! It's pretty similar to my hug-kiss close which I'll post later.

[andre3]

Aren't there easy ways to sexually escalate?

[KennyG]

Originally Posted by andre3

Aren't there easy ways to sexually escalate?

It sounds like you are looking for a two or three step process that, if you just do those three steps, you end up with a girl who wants make it like rabbits with you.

Is that what you are asking for?

Because even Microsoft software doesn't work like that. You follow the steps and it still doesn't work. You need to know a little bit about the machine & peripherals, a little bit about the OS, a little bit about MS services, a little bit about IP and connectivity, how routers work, and you still have to fight with your setup to make things work.

And women are even more complex than that. that's why it takes learning and lots of practical experience to get good with women.

[andre3]

actually ive found a way to sexually escalate faster.