Great Openers

Christian · #1 10-23-2008, 02:06 AM

A thread for our favorite conversation starters. Since I'm just getting this thread going, its 2 AM, and I'm leaving for vacay tomorrow, here are two of my recent faves.

The first is courtesy of Nick, and we've been using it on our bootcamps lately with FANTASTIC results. "Hey guys, on a scale of 1-10, how serious of a conversation are you having? Because I know when I'm out with my guy friends at a bar, we hate it when women come to talk to us..."

The other one is something I came up with for a client awhile back, and have since been using myself extensively. He was very short but wanted to approach a tall, model-esque girl. "Hey, you're the most intimidating person in here, so I thought I should come say hello."

djg · #2 10-25-2008, 03:08 PM

(1) Excuse me, you are the cutest girl I have seen all day...
(2) And I woke up early... or And I haven't been inside all day
(3) And I've been hanging out with models all day

Adjust this as necessary. Maybe use three weeks instead of all day. If it's early in the morning, I'll use the got up early part. Timing is crucial if you want to use (2) and (3). If you same them too quickly you'll sound like you're just reciting a canned line, which you are.

You can bridge into these after using a situational opener like, "Do you know how to get to..."

A variant on this is, "You're cuter than the average girl at (wherever you are)." So if you're in the dairy aisle at the supermarket, she's cuter than the average girl in the dairy aisle. This one has a slightly different vibe, but will still make many girls' days.

MJG · #3 10-27-2008, 02:25 PM

Great for bars:

If she/they look bored (or as long as they aren't super pumped) - in a friendly, slightly sarcastic (or very sarcastic, depending on their energy level):

"You guys look like you're having the most fun out of anybody here."

If they are having a great time, then say it without sarcasm, in a genuine, fun way.

Mitho · #4 10-27-2008, 09:46 PM

The most natural and honest opener, i think is this:

"Hey, how are you?" or just a simple "Hey"

It's great, you can immediately start to get to know her.

Scotty Pimpin' · #5 11-05-2008, 03:17 AM

I took one of your openers Christian and put my own twist to it...

"Hey, you're the second most intimidating person in here, so I thought I should come say hello"

I initially said it because it was true and a girl on stage was more intimidating, but I think it adds a great push/pull element to it.

Have fun!
-Scott

Patrick · #6 11-05-2008, 02:26 PM

This came randomly to me last weekend when I noticed this ridiculously hot girl getting hit on by guy after guy in a club here at home. My girl went to the bathroom... so what's a guy to do? "I know every drunk dumbass and his 9 friends have been hitting on you and stepping on your shoes the whole night, but I just wanted you to know that I think you're unbelievably gorgeous and I wanted to say hi". She laughs- I get tingle in my spine- it's on! Turns out she was checking my ass out too, but since I was with someone there, I can't really do anything about it. (sigh) So many women...

Christian · #7 11-06-2008, 09:23 AM

A lot of these openers are great because they sort of 'pace' the woman's reality, especially yours, Patrick. I find that my direct openers work well when there's something in there that effectively communicates "hey, I know that this is your/our situation, and/but..."

Ivo · #8 11-06-2008, 06:07 PM

Hey, Patric,

Strangely enough, I've heard your opener word for word from David DeAngelo in his advanced series program DVD...

Patrick · #9 11-10-2008, 04:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ivo

Hey, Patric,

Strangely enough, I've heard your opener word for word from David DeAngelo in his advanced series program DVD...

Might probably his, been using it of and on for a while now, and thought of it again that night. I got it from my friend who's a big David D. fan, has pretty much all his products too. Hey, if it works it works. Cheers to David D.

Mr. Mojo · #10 11-10-2008, 09:40 PM

For all you guys living abroad right now:

Learn how to ask if she speaks english in the native language of that country. And learn how to say that it's a pity she doesn't, 'cause she is cute.

I am currently in Tokyo and was giving myself a way to hard time with the language barrier. Now I just open with:

"Eigo o shaberuno? Sanen dakara, kirei da."

This translates into: "Do you speak English? (she says no) It's a pity cause you're beautiful."

Works great in Japan, 'cause Japanese guys seldomly compliment their women. In other countries I'd probably change it to cute. Off course, if she says no, you have to be able to game on in her native language.

If she says yes, it's pretty easy: "That's great, because I saw you walking by (doing xyz) and I knew I just had to get to know you. I'm Chris."

I know, a near perfect copy of sebastian drakes direct opener, but I figured wording it 'I had to' and saying that with conviction adds to the movie moment charme.