Throwing Preparties and Parties

[ablosser]

OH, AND getting a wii, even if you don't like to play video games on your own, that's not the point... Mark mentioned this in his CYC book and it is awesome! When you have a small to decent sized group (doesn't work as well w/ big groups) pull out the wii and get a super smash bros tourney or mario kart tourney going... it's always a blast. Mario Party is another good one too. Girls and guys alike.

Other than the wii, another great party video game for a smallish group is Rock Band. Tons of fun

Cheers,
Drew

[trick]

Ive posted this before but I'll do it again.

http://www.amazon.com/Hasbro-41461-E...3965031&sr=8-2

Catch Phrase. It's incredibly simple and everyone LOVES it. Great for pre-parties, afterparties, or just something to do on a boring night. The concept is simple it shows a word or phrase and you have to get your teamates to guess it without saying it or a rhyme of it... For example if the word was "Remote" you could say "you use this to turn on the TV" .. There's a timer when you hit start and as you get words right you hit "next" and pass it to the other team, the team that doesnt have the unit when the timer goes off gets a point. Inexpensive and a lot of fun. Highly reccomended. I picked mine up at Target for like $25 before the beginning of last semester.

[Vatta]

Hey bro,

don't remember if you mentioned where your party's gonna be. If it's in the dorms, I'm not the man to talk to. As for a real place that you can turn up the music and not worry about RA's .. now we're talking.

The key here is fun bro. If you invite every girl you wanna hook up with, and try to hook up with her there, that won't be fun for her, or any of your other girls. I've tried it. It blew up in my face terribly. You can invite all the girls you want to hook up with, and be fun and playful with all of them. That will turn out golden. Be fun, be playful, be energetic. If you need a redbull, go for it. When I want to party I'll have a redbull and 2 shots of tequila, but that's just me. As far as activities, it's pretty dependent on the venue. If there's already a wii there then obviously that'll be a great idea. If not, I wouldn't bring one, just to worry about it while everyone else is getting drunk. Drinking games - obviously, no need to play 20 of them... it's like sex, you don't need every position in the kama sutra. 3 or 4 solid choices is all you need. If you set up a beer pong table, along with a kitchen area for taking shots, and an area by the couch for kings cup that should support a good size party of 30 people or so.

Music: Sadly if it's good, nobody will really notice. They will only notice if it's bad. Fortunately, learning to become a dj is not difficult, and while I don't do it myself, I have a couple buddies who do, and are quite good. They look up tons of new songs, make cool mixes, and have very nice equipment. They are also used to spinning beats for college parties, so everything flows well... there are definitely guys like that around you, but if you absolutely can't find any, there are lots of fun pre-made party playlists online. Hip hop/ pop/ top 40 songs in a 2 hour playlist or so and you'll be set

Whether it's a preparty or the real deal keeping the alcohol flowing is important. Shots and fun drinks early in the night, easing up as the night goes on. Nothing is more of a buzz kill though that having to announce to the party that you're out of beer and would like some cash for a beer run... that sucks, don't do that... Stock more than you need, it will get drank, tonight (likely) or you'll be able to save it for later. If you do plan on hooking up with one of the girls, get a special alcohol for just you two. Suggestions include nuovo (a girly champagne/vodka/ pink fusion) if you want to get something that she'll absolutely be curious to try, or a tried and true favorite is just a flask of jaeger. Any number of basic lines make the escalation very smooth "Hey we're running a little low on drinks, I've got a secret bottle stashed in my room I wanna bring out. Come get it with me." Lead her to your room, get the jaeger/ whatever, take a quick swig, let her take a swig, tease her a bit, and you're probably more than set up to start making out (conveniently already in your room). Don't worry, the party will survive without you.

Anyways, the basics are simple. Be fun, invite all your friends, don't run out of booze, and have at least a few areas/ things to do. last but not least, try very hard not to have direct light from the ceiling. Indirect is better, blacklights/ white tshits/ and highlighters is the best

I'm not sure exactly what you were looking for here, so I don't know if this answer is helpful, but I hope it is. I'm happy to expand on anything you'd rather hear about relating to parties or preparties. I've hosted quite a few in my day, and for a brief period of my life went to UofArizona and learned a thing or two about good parties from the pro's in tucson...

[Beau]

Thanks Guys,

Long Story Short, I haven't been out an partied much at all, so I didn't have any people show up to the preparty. However, when I left for the party, I had a bottle of White Wine: Pouilly Fuisse. It was about $25, So I don't recommend buying it. But, I'm a fan of wine. So when I brought it, it actually peacocked for me, since nobody had anything but a red cup with beer or some jungle juice. It wasn't my intention, but its cool when that works in my favor. Personally I'm not a huge beer drinker, but I love wines. Anyways, It got some mystery going and had some people ask me about it. BUT, problem was, I got soo fucked up from drinking most of the bottle, that I had a HUGE hangover. I was being social and talking to people, but I threw up once before I went to bed, then had woken up, tried to get something else in my stomach but couldn't hold anything down. I puked about 5 times.

But, I learned something from the experience, and got some more insights. I texted the mass invite text around 5pm before the party, and didn't get anyone to come. Not to mention, I couldn't bring any of my guy friends who weren't in the frat. So, it kinda sucked, but I had to deal with it since It wasn't my rules.
also there were a bunch of people I texted who I haven't talked to in a semester, but I put it out there just to see the response. I got about 25% response. Not too bad, but then again, no one really showed up.

So, Should I send out invites with a day or 2 in advance?

Also, I learned its best not to drink most of the bottle. It tasted great, but I ended up annihilated and having a long ass time recovering .

So, I'm going to definitely monitor my drinking habits much much more. I haven't been hungover in a year, so it took me by surprise.
You live and you learn.

I did approach a few girls, but then I had trouble transitioning the conversation and leading them. Partially because I've been getting short sighted and just focusing on the close, and not trying to just get a good conversation going, in order to lead them and get them to the hook point of the conversation. I bought Say Hello, and reviewing CYC, and its helping me get back to the fundamentals.

I remember playing catch phrase at a party once, and when I did that, I was really good, and attracted this girl right in front of her feminine like boyfriend. I'm definitely gonna have to get one of those.

Thanks a lot for the advice guys, even though it seemed like a bust for success, I still learned thigns and still made progress. Coming from a point where I've barely been going out, I still view it as a positive step in the right direction.

Is there a thread on Drinking Games and how to play them? I'm not a big beer drinker, so I don't know that many drinking games.
I'm sure I could look them up, but some games besides beer pong and flip cup, I could use a lesson or 2 about drinking games.

[ablosser]

hey man i used to be a lightweight and it sucked, but now i'm so used to it all i can hold a lot more... also, i read that if u eat some stuff like bread before, it'll help absorb the alcohol, allowing u to hold more. plus, i've found that if u don't want a really bad hangover the next day, periodically drink bottles of water throughout the night, it really helps.
finally, since u say u have CYC i remember he had like a whole chapter devoted to fun drinking games so u should definitely check that out.

cheers,
Dre

[Beau]

Yea, I'm about 130lbs at 5'6". I knew I was a lightweight. So I found a site while I was hungover to help me out. I recommend anyone that drinks to check it out. Its a great site on what to eat, drink before and after drinking when preventing or getting over hangovers. Too bad the only solution I had that didn't make me throw up was just time.

http://health.howstuffworks.com/hangover6.htm

Yea, I'm going to head back to that section on drinking games and such.

thanks Dre

[ablosser]

np... cool site there. and i actually meant to put Drew, not Dre, lol

[Brendan]

Lmao trick, I know you say no need for Goose... I bought Skyy once, and I swear to all that is holy, there are 2 or 3 of my friends who are girls who *always* ask if I have Skyy. Of course, I never give them a straight answer prior to their arrival at the party.

It started with just one girl who I was kind of into, but she told her friends about it. It's gotten to the point where I keep a spare bottle in my room whenever possible, just in case- one time I showed it to them but didn't break it out (which was funny in and of itself to just watch). However make sure you do bust it out on occasion, it is one way to distinguish yourself and "peacock" vs. all the other guys competing for time from hot girls.

The point is... Goose would do the same thing. Girls REMEMBER if you have really high quality stuff, and even if you don't break it out every time, that's going to be a positive, because the girls will remember YOU and be more likely to show up at any event you throw...

[Beau]

Originally Posted by trick

Ive posted this before but I'll do it again.

http://www.amazon.com/Hasbro-41461-E...3965031&sr=8-2

Catch Phrase. It's incredibly simple and everyone LOVES it. Great for pre-parties, afterparties, or just something to do on a boring night. The concept is simple it shows a word or phrase and you have to get your teamates to guess it without saying it or a rhyme of it... For example if the word was "Remote" you could say "you use this to turn on the TV" .. There's a timer when you hit start and as you get words right you hit "next" and pass it to the other team, the team that doesnt have the unit when the timer goes off gets a point. Inexpensive and a lot of fun. Highly reccomended. I picked mine up at Target for like $25 before the beginning of last semester.

Good Cal trick,

The first time I realized being the fun and flirty guy at the party was attractive was when a girl brought that over, and then I was flirting with her in front of her feminine like boyfriend. Long story short, she wasn't attractive, and got her number instead of her hot friend'd number, and then she was really into me and was texting me back and forth. She was kinda crazy when she put a pic from me at that party as her facebook profile. She as then showing jealous wall posts about other girls posting on my wall.
She was kinda crazy but, learned some good stuff there.

Lessons learned: Get Catch Phrase (just bought it
and go for the girl you want, otherwise, you might have to deal with more shit later on, where you will be wasting your time.