Playing one off the other

mrconner · #1 03-05-2010, 08:19 AM

So I think I mentioned this Siberian girl I met a week or so ago.

Well, I was aggressive in getting a date (which turns out to have been only a date in my mind, but I digress) and last night she met me at an art gallery opening.

Now, it just so happens that, at this art gallery, there works a rather stunning girl, S. I'm usually pretty tongue-tied around S but we've gotten friendly over the course of several openings at her gallery, to the point where I decided to take her into my confidence this week about the Siberian girl. In other words, although I do really like S, I also know she's got a boyfriend, so I though I'd enlist her help with the Siberian.

So the day before the gallery opening I met S for coffee and I explained the situation - that I'd met this girl the week before and she was coming to the gallery opening and could S help, basically by being a kind of wing man? You know, making the girl comfortable, showing that she, S, likes me a little bit (social validation) and that sort of thing. She said sure, and S and I ended up having the best conversation we've ever had.

Now, part of me was also thinking strategically, that although this probably won't be good for my chances with S in the short term it might work out in the long term - i.e., S and I are now talking on a more intimate level, and I've certainly never pretended not to be interested in her (though I also don't think I've made it too obvious).

So here's the question - was confiding in S about someone else a good move on my part, or have I forever removed myself from consideration as a future interest?

wizz · #2 03-05-2010, 01:08 PM

That's a tough one... I wouldn't say anythings ruined "forever" though. You would deffinitely have to put in some major work though.

Brendan · #3 03-07-2010, 10:15 AM

I would say yeah you probably hurt your chances a little bit. BUT remember that having really really cute girls as "sisters" will DEFINITELY help you with getting other girls, like you're talking about. That's nice to have in and of itself, and if you are really close to her she will probably introduce you to some of her friends eventually, who you CAN escalate on, and if you're already close to S, she'll probably say you're a good guy which can only help your chances.

Maybe the best chance you would have at S, is if she has one really super gorgeous friend that she introduces you to and you sleep with this friend... added benefit of course.

ahmedgottliebchan · #4 03-07-2010, 01:47 PM

Female friends are always good to have. If you don't have any hot female friends, I suggest you make a few.

KennyG · #5 03-08-2010, 12:58 AM

Not necessarily, I don't think. She might be impressed with your comfort about talking about dating and women and strategy, and your knowingness about these matters. If you can keep having the occasional deep conversation with her, and work on transitioning once in a while to pique her interest, you might make something happen.

I don't know about your particular approach; I'd stare into her eyes without talking, with my trademark smirk, for longer than normal, and do a quick look at her lips. Maybe a little bit of kino.

Then a week or a month later, do some kino, and some teasing where you talk more about her, and communicate nonverbally about the two of you. I.e, tell her she shouldn't goof around so much with you because you are going to get the wrong idea. Or my favorite line, which I forget where I heard it, "you don't [insert something like 'read the classics' or 'watch Roadrunner' or eat broccoli']??? Man, you are ruining your chances with me, girl." That kind of thing.

thepromoter · #6 03-21-2010, 05:54 AM

i don't think so. S may be more attracted to you now that you've pulled another chick.

plus DON'T me a monogamous monk, she's got a guy she's fucking so why be a "virgin" until she comes around? fuck that, live your life dude, get @ every chick you think is attractive and make the world a better place.