The Comeback Party 1/30/10

[Beau]

A week ago, I was hungover, and unhappy with my inability to apply the material I learned for school and dating haven't been able to stick in my head. I got a new drug to help my AD/HD within the week from a psychiatrist, to help my attention, and now, I've started to really make some progress.

I remember reading a blog post by Nick Sparks about how one great night can totally change your game around. I didn't have 100% belief in it until last night.

Before the night, I wasn't going to try to do a preparty or anything. Just call a few girls to bring them to the party. I got responses from all but one, but then she sent me a drink on facebook the next day. Whatever. There was one section of a CYC teleseminar that talked about flirting, that I didn't write notes on yet, and was debating If I should do that before I left. I decided not to, since I already was listening to music to get myself in party mode. I didn't because then I would have gone into Logical mode, and been told that it will get me in my head. I said, fuck it, so I decided to just rock out to good solid music before I headed out.

So, Last night was a blast. I didn't get laid, but that actually wasn't the objective that night. My only objective was to just be able to isolate a girl and have a 1 on 1 conversation and be able to work on my conversation skills with her. Not being able to drink was a real bummer, since I would know how to use that to my advantage. Basically you want to be able to get a girl comfortable with you and then have her trust you in order to follow you. It was shit like this that I totally forgot about long time ago, until I reviewed reading CYC. The whole point is that when you have her in the habit and familiarity of following you, you can then get enough trust from her when you want to bounce to another venue, and/or back to your bedroom. Also, its a time distortion because the more places you have been with a girl, the more it will seem like in her mind that she knows you. Anyways, so I wanted to bring a girl away from the speakers and go sit down on those chair that were stacked. I saw HB 7 BLD. This was the girl you guys referred to as Octagon. I saw her with a friend and just engaged both of them to get that social muscle working. Her friend was an HB 6.5 BRN. I personally wouldn't have wanted to hook up with her anyways, but I wasn't there to hook up, just be able to practice conversation. I couldn't remember why, but she didn't want to move to the other side of the room when I said we should move and go sit down. The funny thing was that the PUA guy took his arm and wrapped it around hers with a cup in his hand to take a drink. Did he AMOG me? Sure, I guess you could say that, but then again, I really wasn't interested in her anyways. So, I left him with the pawn.

Anyways, so I left him with her. Not really giving a shit. And then I saw an HB 7 Social Proofer she was an ex of a guy in the frat. But, he cheated on her, so I doubt he would have cared. I just saw her and waved, since I've seen her around TBH before here and there, so I decided to walk over to say hey. I wasn't really thinking of hooking up with her, but then again, she was cool, and so I saw her near the door, and then isolated her to the other side, away from the speakers. We were talking for about 5 min, when the rest of the sorority sisters showed up.

Thanks to truestar, I unconsciously knew about a sorority sister of another sister in a sorority will cockblock if she doesn't know who you are. However, I just engaged all of them and HB 7 introduced me to all of them. This was where all the magic happened. It was hard to rememeber any of their names, but Pre-Selection was finally working in my favor. I don't remember a time where this actually happened to me. But anyways, I started to fist pump like a goofball, thanks to MTV's Jersey Shore, as the theme of the party. I was having fun, and found out a few of them were italian so I jokingly said I found all of the Guidettes! Anyways, then as I started to engaged most of the girls, I was unintentionally ignoring the one on the left. She was HB 7. She was cute, and so as she started to talk with me, the other girls left us. As we were talking, I took another chair and had us each sit down. Then i started to talk with her, and had heavy eye contact, and just started to connect with her verbally and kinoed her and there. I tried to remember some of the conversation topics Mark talks about. I was rusty at times, by not remembering her name, but used the I have ADD card, and so she was qualifying me by saying it was the strobe lights and shit. It actually occured to me that I was shaking with anxiety. I can't remember if I was cold, anxious, or the sideaffects were kicking in from my SSRI. either way, I was out of my comfort zone a little and wanted to push things. Luckily, it was dark, so I don't think she could telling I was shaking. I eventually told her I thought she was cool and cute. And asked what her major was, It was psychology. Same as me, and I said I knew what she was thinking as a joke. She asked:" so What am I thinking" I said, "I don't know you probably aren't up for it. (mystery) Allright fine. Have you ever kissed without kissing?" Her" No" (I leaned in which was a mistake) " Its when you get as close as possible without actually kissing."

I didn't hear a response, but didn't give a shit, she cute, I didn't give a fuck, and wanted to push my limits. So, I leaned in, and kissed her, but then it wasn't a makeout or anything. Her friend then came over, and she said, she had to get going.( Was this a possible cockblock? I'm not sure). But anyways, I said, well, hey gimme your number! So then I got her number and she said for me to text her my name. I did so after about 5 min.

Two things crossed my mind: 1) she may not have been as attracted enough to want to make out as much as I did.
2) She did and I just wasn't dominant enough to really let my passion run wild on her, and go for the full blown makeout.

Then, next I saw a girl my friend was talking to. She was another pawn. And I just wanted to socialize for the hell of it. I then had a couple of chode freshman try to come up and AMOG me. I picked up on this right away, and didn't really care. The good news is that they saw me as a threat, which was why guys get amogged in the first place. Anyways, she was another pawn, and I didn't find her that attractive anyways. So I went to just go get more water in my cup.

I saw that Mr. RSD intern was making out with the girl I kissed earlier. If I was a chode, I would have been pissed and shit, but I didn't really care, since I knew that you can't get jealous, and that it wasn't really something to really be concerned about.

Then, I was just walking around the dancefloor, and saw some of the girls I was introduced to by HB Social Proofer. One of the was HB 7Red, the other was HB 7 BRn. both were cute. HB red was introducing me to a friend of hers as her new best friend. God I LOVE preselection (social proof). So the HB7Red started to dance and so I was dominant and pulled her in to start grinding. I then had 2 girls doubleteaming me on the dancefloor, and I was lovin it. So then we were talking about bullshit on the dancefloor, and how we were both mutts, and how she thought mutts were cute, so I accused her of saying that she thought I was cute, she said, yea a little. So my hands were grabbing her ass, and some random dude, who I've met before came up and said, "You guys are a cute couple." was that an AMOG attempt? or what? I said that's coo, so where is your girl? I didn't mean to be a dick, but just said something to see if he would go find one. Then as I was enjoying myself, I didn't go the kiss, even though, we were getting physical and shit. Not too sure why, but I think its because I didn't want to be making out with everyone in sight. I didn't want to be looked at by her friends as a creepy guy trying to hook up with all of the sorority sisters. It was no wonder she put up resistance to me about getting her number. Her damn sorority sister was "missing" and so then the sorority sister came in for the cockblock, and said, hey wait! let me get your number before you go. She said,"how about I find HB Social Proofer first, and then I'll give you my number after I find her."
So she left, and so I tried to find the sister so that I could get back to business with the cute redhead. It was strange, I'm usually not into redheads, but I was getting turned on, So I guess so.

Then, the lights went back on, and the party was over, I saw her with the other girl I kissed, and decided, to just hit her up on facebook and get the number at a later attempt.
makes sense kinda: I just learned today that the grinding girl has a BF. Then again does that really matter? I doubt it. Either way, I had an awesome night, and started a great comeback. I saw some great people I haven't partied with in a long time, got a Kiss, a number, and had social proofing work to my advantage and had a girl all over me on the dancefloor.

It was a damn shame, I didn't think about how to close the deal with the original girl I kissed, but now I know HB Social Proofer lives in TBH, I'm going to invite her to preparties and bring her sisters over.

Let the good times roll!

My next objective is to get atleast a full blown makout. I was almost there last time, and just needed to be a man and be dominant. And then it would have happened. It's all good. I can't wait for the next weekend!

[ablosser]

hey beau, i've got a few comments... first, i think that this was a great start for your "comeback" (i don't know what your coming back from but w/e) and that if you keep working at it, you'll be having the time of your life all the time, in no time (if that makes sense) lol... but i do feel like you are analyzing things too much and just need to relax a little. But ya, i'm not going to lay out any "advice" b/c first, u didn't really ask for any, and second, i think you're doing fine as it is

so good job, and just keep having fun

Cheers,
Drew

[Beau]

Basically, I've barely been going out at all. I'd say less than 10 times in 2009. So, My buddies and I are in our Senior/Junior year, and they are helping me get back on my feat. I had a problem where my medication for my AD/HD was not working for the past few years, and so I just got new medication for it this past week. I can't drink, but I'm still able to rock out. I've been out of the loop, and haven't really been out in the field as much. So, Its more of a change between last weekend with: me getting hungover as fuck, getting pissed, sad, depressed, for not being able to succeed, and then realizing I've been getting tolerance to my medication leading to an inability to remember anything I learn, whether it was school or dating. So I took action, saw a psychiatrist, and he got me on a new medication that has been chilling me the fuck out, and helping me with the 20% trait of being "Chill." So, I was miserable last weekend, but now, I've gotten a kiss for the first time in about 16 months. I'm able to learn efficiently for school and able to apply what I remember learning, from CYC. And finally been progressing closer to the lifestyle I wanted.

Go ahead and give me constructive criticism. Its hearing shit like that, that we don't always want to hear, that helps us. If there is anything that someone notices that could have made my experience better, I would love to learn from my mistakes/experiences.


I do over analyze, so thank you for the reminder.

[ahmedgottliebchan]

I was going to read your post but it was a wall of text. Please break it down into something easier to read; ENTER is on your keyboard for a very good reason.

[ablosser]

hey Beau, i think that's awesome that you are really starting to get back into it and rock out and such. I'd say one thing that you should do right off the bat as you get back into things (this is in UnB too) is write down all your permission factors that you have (i.e. things that allow you to go out and have a fun time and things that don't allow you to have a fun time) Once you have a list, keep all the good ones and get rid of all the bad ones.

Another thing that is a lot like that is to write down all your limiting beliefs (i.e. girls won't like me cause i'm fat/short/bald/have add, etc) and get rid of them. Find examples of guys that were fat/short/bald/ have add or w/e your limiting belief is and find ones that are amazing w/ girls. Like tons of bald guys are able to get chicks! It's all just in the head.

So i'd say those 2 things will really help, and whenever you start getting a doubt about yourself or a limiting belief or a negative permission factor, just go through those exercises again.

Other than that just keep on going through CYC or UnB if you have them.

Good Luck,
Drew

[Apex]

Originally Posted by ablosser

but i do feel like you are analyzing things too much and just need to relax a little.

This is exactly what I was thinking as I read this. The key is to find a way to internalize what you learn so it's just second nature. Then you just do what you do. In the end this is the key to happiness and success.

[Beau]

Yea, I do tend to overanalyze, and need to just chill the fuck out. Thanks for reminding me to do so. I do have Unbreakable, and have been reading my affirmations recently.

2 things I needs to work on:

A) conversation skills + flirting. (I'm currently getting better and better at this)

B) Dominance, and just going for the makeouts/escalation

I just read in Mark's truth about college game emails, that if you are preselected, then you don't need to get connection with a girl. I totally forgot about that!

Anyways, I'm doing great, been having a great time and been getting more and more girls's numbers every week.

I'm starting to really rock it around campus!

I'll post another field report for tomorrow night's party.

[Brendan]

Originally Posted by Beau

I just read in Mark's truth about college game emails, that if you are preselected, then you don't need to get connection with a girl. I totally forgot about that!

Yeah, that is true; however, don't look for a girlfriend doing that.