Audio Mailbag: She Made a Bad Choice
December 2, 2008
Today’s question comes from Alan, who was writing in responding to the very first email in my email list’s sequence, so he’s probably a ‘newbie’. But I have high expectations that he can get his girl problem sorted.
I broke off with my girl when she went out with another man. But like you mentioned, I am attracted to her though, I know she does not deserve me. I am guilty of some of the stuff you mentioned. What is the best response to show her that she made a bad choice? To be cool and dominant like you recommended?
-Alan
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Audio Mailbag: Why’d She Flake?
November 25, 2008
Today’s question comes from Akash, and I really sympathize with his situation.
Yo Christian,
I need your advice man. I was at yardhouse last friday, met to hang with some friends of friends and met this really cute girl at our table. We talked for awhile, i REALLy felt like i hit it off - funny with out trying, a little cocky, a little nice, didn’t talk much about myself at all (which I LOVE doing), charmed her cousin as well, etc. At the end of the night, i casually asked her outside ‘u wanna go get something to eat sometime?’ and she was like “yeah, we can do that.” She really seemd really cool with the idea, not crazy about it, DEFINITELY not uninterested.
I took down her number, gave her a hug, and me and my friends bounced.
I was really surprised when i called her, and she didn’t call back (about 24 hours ago). I know i sound lame and paranoid, but i know that if a girl is interested, she calls u back. But this really the first time ever i’ve been truly, truly surprised that i didn’t get called back, and i really did want to hang with this girl, and i was so disappointed.
Should i give up man? call in a week? give her benefit of the doubt? or say fuck it and move on? I really, really would appreciate your help on this one.
-Regular guy, Akash
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Friday Night Fire 2
November 21, 2008
Nick’s Friday Night Speech for November 21. Recommended background music: Touch the Sky by Kan-yeezee.
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Audio Mailbag: Do You Have to be Cold?
November 18, 2008
From Pedro, who writes very respectfully!
You know, all these techniques, all the stuff we learn and so on…don’t you think it takes a very cold man to be effectively in charge ? Let’s say, if I go consciously thinking on every thing I should do and every thing she is doing I will not sound natural, but very worried instead ! I have had far better results in situations when I interact just for the sake of it and with no intentions at all !
How to overcome this ? Or must we get to the conclusion that for being a PUA, unless you’re a natural, you must be a very cold guy ?
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Audio Mailbag: Quick Wit
November 10, 2008
This week kicks off our weekly Tuesday audio mailbags (except we’re starting on Monday, because there’s a big announcement tomorrow). So let’s start with Mike in Ann Arbor, the city I miss greatly.
First of all I wanted to tell you that I’ve learned a lot from your emails and have put many of your techniques to use with positive results. And it’s great to have a PUA that doesn’t just want to sell you shit all of the time and that actually sends out emails frequently answering to common problems among guys. Thank you. Now on to the real reason I sent you this message.
I was at the gym earlier today and after working out I went to the little cafe to get a quick after workout protein shake. As I walked up I wasn’t really paying attention to the cashier and was just looking at the choices of shakes they had. As soon as I found what I was lookiing for I moved my eyes down to the cashier. In front of me was by far the cutest girl I had seen all day. She asked me what I wanted and I made my order. There wasn’t anyone waiting in line so I just waited at the counter. I payed within 30 seconds and she tells someone to make the shake. Then she turns to me with this flirty smile and says “Soo, did you just come in or did you just get done working out?” Now at this point I am thinking she is just making small talk and I am kind of tired from working out and my conversation gears were pretty much shut down from a silent workout, so I tell her I just got done. She responds by saying “Oh really? You don’t look like you had a very tough workout. (As she looks down at my biceps)” Now after she says this I know she is flirting with me because I am in very good shape and it is very obvious that I work out on a regular basis. My conversation gears don’t even budge, so I chuckle slightly and flash a small smile. She says “Your supposed to laugh, it was a joke.” “Right. Heh heh.” I sarcastically respond. Now my gears begin to budge slightly, but my mind just goes blank, I have nothing to say AT ALL. I stood there trying to flirt back but my mind just wouldn’t let me. My shake came up pretty quick so I say have a nice day and leave. As soon as I walked out the door I felt like punching my self in the head. I had a chance to get this cute and interesting girl’s number and straight up blanked like a freaking amateur. Now the question that I wanted to ask is this: Do you have any techniques on how to get those converstion gears rolling right away after being in an environment where your almost completely silent the whole time? I would love to know a quick fix to this problem, so that if this happens again I can be ready.
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Interview with Client ‘Hash’
August 26, 2008
Bootcamp client Hash joins us to discuss his bootcamp experience, and some of the things he learned while working with us.
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