Becoming A Master of Arousal

Posted in Pickup Your Game
A lot of guys tell me that their biggest sticking point with women is “getting attraction.” I think the word gets used as a placeholder far to often, so let’s see if we can shine a little light on on a specific element of attraction: arousal. You will not go home with a car loaded

The Winner's Attitude

Posted in Crank Your Confidence
There's a unique quality of voice that accompanies a "come to Jesus" moment… you know, that moment when some serious hell gets rained down on you by someone you care about, in a way that makes you question everything about yourself. It's kind of like the frightened warble of a blind baby bird, unsure if

Happy Birthday To Us

Posted in Live The Good Life
Wow, TSM is four years old. When I started this business, I was pretty deep in debt, had no "Plan B," and wasn't certain that I'd be able to make my next rent payment. But here we are. It has not been easy.  With almost all of our first few years of profits going to

How To Disagree With A Woman

Posted in Pickup Your Game
Amazing final day in South Beach… a little work in the morning, daytime volleyball with a cool group of brazilians, evening massage at the Delano, and a four mile run on the beach to wind down the night. So these last few weeks, we've been talking about the mindset that drives confidence.  But let's get

Inner Game: The Gap, The Resistance and The Champion

Posted in Crank Your Confidence
"Just go talk to her dude. Even one-armed women need lovin' too." So spoke my friend, moments before my first ever cold approach. Despite her missing limb, I was nervous as hell. Total lack of confidence, heart thumping in my throat… it felt like my brain was going to melt down. I steeled myself, and

How To Be Confident With Everything

Posted in Crank Your Confidence
I've often thought that if I meet the man who invented Tostitos Hint of Lime chips, I'd give him a hug, then punch him in the face. When a bag of these chips is tucked away in my cabinet, it takes every ounce of willpower in my body to resist 'em.  Especially on those late

Best. Technique. Ever

Posted in Pickup Your Game
In golf, it's the tell-tale crack of the club's sweet spot meeting the ball, and watching as the shot soars two hundred yards and beyond. In motorcycle racing, it's the twist of the wrist that propels the bike from 60 to 140 out of a perfectly executed corner and onto a straight in mere seconds.

Becoming Your Own "Ten"

Posted in Crank Your Confidence
Amazing discussion last week.  I have to tell you, it's so rewarding to see so many of you sharing your thoughts.  I spend so much time doing the day-to-day, running the business stuff and I love these opportunities to connect. So listen - tomorrow is Valentine's Day.  I have the good fortune to be spending

What's Your "Perfect Ten"?

Posted in Women And The World
What's your idea of a "perfect ten"? I want your true and honest thoughts on this.  Here's why: Up till now, I've been primarily responsible for all of our marketing.  I've recently hired someone to help out, but if you've read a sales letter, or an email, or seen a photo on the site, that's

How To Be Confident Around Women

Posted in Pickup Your Game
Crazy few days… we relaunched Fearless yesterday and are selling out fast.  And while I've finally started to hire some people to help out around here (if you're an entrepreneur, you probably know how hard it is to "let go") I still do a lot of the tech stuff, the marketing, the production… it's a