Today's question comes from Ben, who is having difficulties securing dates over text messaging.  FYI, I'm not always able to address specific situations on these, as sometimes there's a week or two turnaround.  But hey, if you're finding yourself stuck, send me a facebook message or an email and I'll get to the question soon!

1. We met at a club, just started chatting with her and her friend, her friend was occupied by another guy who I didn't know but basically played wingman for me by separating the girls. We danced and took pictures with her camera, I got her number/myspace info walked her to her friends car. Sent her a text told her I wanted to take her out, she said she had a bf so I said no problem, lets just hang out as friends. Texted her a few times after that, sometimes responds sometimes doesn't.

2. Also met at a club, only talked for about 5-10 minutes. Used the 'is this your real hair color' opener, took pictures, found out we live in the same city and both were at a rave for Halloween. Got her number. Told her I was going to one for new years eve. Called next day left msg, she texted me, went back and forth about this concert she had tix for but didn't want to go to. Sent her a txt today about happy hour if she wanted to come along, said she already had dinner plans, maybe next time. How to proceed?

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