Audio Mailbag: Getting the Date

December 16, 2008

Today’s question comes from our friend ~N, who asks a question about a situation that we’ve all had to deal with.

What do you do when you ask a girl to hang out spontaneously, i.e.:

“Hey, let’s go grab dinner later today…” or “Hey, wanna watch a movie at my place in 2 hrs?”

And the girl responds with a non-commital, “maybe…” or “perhaps, I’m a little tired so I’ll see how I feel in two hours.” I feel like I’m putting my life on hold for her in a way if I say “OK, let me know in two hours how you feel,” and then two hours later she decides she’s ‘too tired to hang out’. I haven’t met enough girls here in Boston where I can just replace her with another girl who is ‘certain’, although I’m half tempted in frustrating situations like these to just tell her “actually, if you don’t know for certain we can just do it another time…” and then insinuate that I found someone else to make ‘plans’ with. sounds pushy (and in my situation is disingenuine) but seems to be a better alternative than putting my time on hold for her.

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Posted by Christian | Filed Under Dating Done Right