Who is Race de Priest? Well for starters I am a world traveler, a dolphin rider, a bridge-jumper-offer, a true blue friend, an award winning bartender, a class clown, a cheese fiend, an adventure junkie, a HUGE dork and all around funstigator. But I bet the part of me that you are most interested in is how I became a professional dating and relationship consultant who has written several books, been on quite a few radio shows including Maxim Radio and Covino and Rich, filmed a TV pilot about meeting women in NYC, worked with the Prime Minister of the Bahamas, been made fun of on Saturday Night Live, been the topic of countless articles and worked with thousand of clients all around the world.
Well truth is it started back in High School. At the age of 15 my parents moved the whole family 2,300 miles (3,701 k) across the country. I went from having a well established social circle of tight knit friends to a small private school where I was the outsider. I mean, these kids had grown up together since grade school. My way of dealing with it was to withdraw into myself and become stand-offish. Hey, that way I couldn’t get rejected or hurt right? The only problem was, this was NOT getting me friends and definitely was NOT getting me dates.
Being the bookworm that I am, I began to devour every book I could find on how to connect with people, make friends and overall become popular. As I began to incorporate what I was learning, I was amazed to see how people began to respond differently to me. It was scary and I was nervous as hell but it payed off. Within a few months I was dating the most popular girl in my class. Fast forward 8 months and a breakup later I was back at square one. Yet I learned a valuable lesson. You don’t have to be born with it, this stuff can be learned!
I was so intrigued, in fact, that I chose Psychology as one of my majors in College. But something was wrong. No matter how much I learned I still didn’t seem to be getting the results I wanted. But I was relatively comfortable so I didn’t worry about it too much. Until another girl broke up with me.
You see, I was the kind of guy that would find a girlfriend and then hold on to her however I could (usually through manipulation and guilt – yeah I know, very unhealthy) because I was afraid that if we broke up I wouldn’t be able to find another one. For me, being in a relationship was comfortable, it was safe and I yet deep down I knew I wasn’t completely happy. I relied on the woman I was dating for my identity and my happiness. Now back to the story.
So there I was working as a bartender in New Zealand after graduation when my girlfriend of 2 years decided to come out and live with me. She quit her Flight Attendant job, flew out and after two months living together she broke up with me. I was devastated. This is the most alone I had ever felt in my entire life. Heartbroken, alone and completely unhappy in a foreign country was the last straw. I was going to master social skills if it killed me!
And it did… I am actually a ghost. j/k I spent the next five years searching out guys who had charisma, who made friends easily and instantly, who girls fawned over, the kind of guy we all wish we could be. It became my personal mission to learn every last thing I could from them. And you know what was odd? They all did different “things”, sometimes contradictory things. And yet it all worked… for them. But a curious thing began to happen to me as I spent more and more time with them. I started to get the same results. It wasn’t until later that I realized what had happened. Ready for the big secret? I began to subconsciously absorb their beliefs and values.
Beliefs and values are the subconscious “commands” that direct our actions, filter the way we view the world and determine how we interpret events, including social interactions. All of the “techniques” that these guys were teaching me, even the ones that contradicted each other, worked because they were in line with each particular guy’s beliefs and values. Now I finally understood why no matter how much I learned, I still wasn’t getting the results I wanted! My subconscious beliefs and values were out of line and holding me back!
I was so excited I spent the next couple years learning the absolute quickest and most effective ways to uncover these sabotaging, subconscious beliefs and transform them into the self-empowering, solid identity building beliefs that these guys all had. I was FINALLY becoming the persona I had always wanted to be. People began to notice. All of a sudden I was the one being complemented on my charisma, I was the one making friends everywhere I went, I was the one people were calling to see what was going on, I was even the one guys came to for advice on meeting and dating beautiful women.
Since then I have dedicated a large part of my life to working with men and women to help them uncover and transform these subconscious beliefs and values that are literally making it impossible for them to achieve the life they desire. So now it’s your turn. IF you are a member of the select few who are ready to move past the same old tips and techniques that have been getting you limited results and often leave you feeling unauthentic and weird then I invite you to a new lifestyle. A lifestyle of adventure, unlimited fun, self-discovery, unshakable confidence, happy, healthy relationships, awesome and abundant friendships, and of course the most exciting and beautiful women you have ever met. I invite you to the lifestyle of The Social Man.
btw: Absolutely feel free to contact me with any and all sincere questions. Yes that means YOU. I promise to get back to you asap. After all, we are in this together :)