Shawty wanna thug? Bottles in da club?
I've always wondered what it would be like to party with these guys. Are they chill and cool guys, or are they just so focused on the game that they vibe out creepiness... I remember trying my first canned routine openers and attraction methods, and feeling the frustration of trying to run all these seduction programs locked in my head.
If you read the Game, they call going out with "wingmen" as "sarging" which makes the whole process something with a given set of rules with a clear winner and loser and an established goal. This was what I expected when Nick Sparks said lets go out. He also added the fact, "I've got a little bit of energy tonight."
As a college student, its common knowledge that the more girls you bring out with you, the more fun you're going to have... The Game calls the girls you take out with you while you're sarging as "pivots". Girls automatically demonstrate that you're a man of higher value. However, on that night, there was just one girl, making the ratio of girls to guy, 1:2. Not a normally good ratio.
We started the night out by meeting at Nick's place, had a couple 40's, but no music. But despite this not being the normal pump-up, "party", pregame scene, Nick compensated for all that. He was like a ball of energy! He just started talking, and I would just lean back, get comfortable, relax, and laugh and make jokes about the craziest things. Like before that, I did not know how making fun of a girl's hometown could be so interesting. He would be touchy (Nick knows nothing of social boudries), upbeat, jumpy, with a smirk on his face that would never waver for a second.
By the time everybody was comfortable with each other, slightly tipsy, and all upbeat, we hopped out onto a bus to head to the bars in the lower east side. Normally, on a bus, people stay seated and quiet, minding their own business, and talk to each other in whispers. Buses can, in fact, be mood killers. But not so with Nick. As soon as he got on that bus, he spoke loudly, making his business everybody elses, but he didn't care... He was having a blast- on a BUS...? It was obvious that we became the center of attention on that bus, and cute girls on the bus started looking our way, and I lost track of the time or stops. Some people would call this shameless behavior, but everybody else on the bus that we could potentially have been disturbing were looking our way grinning and smiling so call it whatever you will, but everybody was having fun... Yes, on a bus...
We walk into a bar, and like any other guy, I start looking around, observing the enviroment, checking out which girls are hot, and where the center of attention is. But not so with Nick... I don't think he realized that people were standing around him. I think the only thing he noted was where the bar was and where the bathroom was, and started walking up to random people and next thing you know, there would be a bunch of cute girls surrounding him laughing and giggling. He didn't analzye or nothing or run canned lines or openers. He just went in, and similar to the bus situation, that's wehre the party was at. He didn't care he who the center of attention was- he is the center of attention. The dude is just so freaking comfortable in his own skin. Next thing you know, girls were buying him drinks, touching him, sending him IOIs. To me it looked like magic because I could not understand what was going on. Just the fact that I was standing next to him was bringing me attention and getting me drinks and lap dances and IOIs. My favorite moment was when this fiesty and rather intrusive blond just grabbed my ass from the back when I was standing by the bar. Nick saw her and automatically started spitting his game, and next thing you know, she was grabbing him until she ripped his necklace right off his neck. He looked back at her in utter shock, (though I think he had it all planned out), and the girl looked at him in utter horror. She ended up being cool and buying each of us a shot. By the time we left, we were seriously the gravitational center of attention.
Then Nick moved us to a close place nearby, and made me start practicing my social magnetism. I thought that there was no order to the madness of Nick's game. But in fact, there was some structure to the Nicks alluring methods. It became relevant when he made me open a set of 3 girls. He told me to go in, sit down, and tell them that they look like they are having the worst time of their lives in this place. I did, and lo and behold, there were opening up, talking, telling me some boring stuff about their lives. I realized that unlike Nick, I didn't know how to escalate groups, and when things started to die down, I just said, "nice to meet you" and left. Nick scolded me for leaning and caring too much about the outcome. The best thing to do is just be so comfortable in my own skin, that I could talk about anything I want and cause people to get hooked into what i was saying. In order to overcome my fear of caring about the outcome, he made me go up to a random group of girls and say something that would automatically get me shut down like, "Hey, I really want to mack with one you now..." I went up, looked at all three of them, grinned, and said, "Yo, I really want to make out with one you now..." I knew I was gonna get shut down, and as soon as one said, "Ewww... NO!" I laughed and left. Then Nick went up to them, used the exact opener I did, sat down next to one of them, and within 30 seconds, despite using that horrible opener, had them laughing and enjoying themselves. I was like wow...
That night opened my eyes... I realized that "game" does exist... And it has nothing to do with looks and money. In fact, girls were throwing us drinks by the end of the night. Moreover, the misconceptions about gaming were totally thrown out of the window. The game is not a neurotic program that runs through the head, where there are rules, winners, losers, and goals, where there are equations where A + B = sex. The game is a characteristic, a built or natural trait, that allows people to lean back, have fun, and get the girl.
The game is not a sequence of events that takes place between a man and a girl, but rather, a different way viewing oneself, that changes the way other people, especially women, view you as an object of attraction.
